Love Mantras for a Mindful Valentine’s Day

Do You Know Love Mantras for Valentine’s Day?

 

The Day of Love is quickly approaching!   Thich Nhat Hanh, Buddhist monk & teacher, offers us 4 compelling love mantras to practice in our relationships for a Mindful Valentine’s Day.

 

Be present with your beloved.

Be present with your beloved.

Darling, I’m here for you. 

Chocolates are delicious.  Flowers are beautiful.  Jewelry is sparkly.  However, they do not say I love you in the powerful way that being present for our beloved does.  Our lives are busy.  We tend to be preoccupied with what has happened to us or what we need to get done.  Taking the time to focus our mind in the present, to be fully in the moment with our loved ones is the most precious gift we can give.  Being present shows that we truly love and value him or her.  As you pick out that Fair Trade gift for your beloved, don’t lose sight of how important it is to be present as well.

Darling, I know that you are there.

This statement acknowledges that your loved one is present, and that his or her presence is precious to you.  You appreciate that you have him or her in your life.

Darling, I know you suffer, that is why I am here for you.

When the one you love is suffering, a simple acknowledgement of her suffering can begin to ease the pain.  She doesn’t face suffering alone, you are there.

Darling, I suffer.  I am trying my best to practice. Please help me.

Sometimes, we feel hurt at the words or deeds of our beloved.  Instead of withdrawing or retaliating, express your suffering. Expressing that you suffer will work to ease your suffering to right away.  Saying you are trying, reveals your intention to resolve the situation.  Asking for help invites your beloved to help in the resolution of the hurt.

 

Recommended Reading

An Open Heart: Practicing Compassion in Everyday Life

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts